In 2012, I had the privilege of performing the wedding ceremony for Matt Hickman and Alana Webster, the daughter of Michael and Kathey Webster.
During the process of preparing for the ceremony, I interviewed a number of Missouri State Highway Patrol officers. It was my desire to get to know Michael through this process and somehow bring him into his daughter’s wedding ceremony. A number of things stood out to me as common in the discussions that I had with these men:
First was the thought that if you had a problem with or didn’t like Michael Webster, you were the problem. He was inviting, caring and genuinely loving toward the people in his life. Everyone enjoyed being around him.
Second, Michael was a man of high integrity, a man of his word. If he said it, it would be done or it would be so. He went above and beyond to make good on his words.
Third, he was known for going out of his way to put other people first. I heard words such as giving, selfless, humility, and kindness.
Another thing that stood out to me was this: everyone I spoke to talked about Michael as if he was in the next room, even though he passed away 20 years ago. This told me that when he was alive, he was truly alive, and that he still lives strong in the lives of those who knew him.
My goal was to have two officers play a small part in the wedding. When I approached the first two, they both asked me to please don’t ask anyone else; they each wanted to be the one to have the privilege of honoring Michael’s life and memory.